Flirting

Ever since I can remember, I've always been... forthcoming in my flirting tactics. Sadly, I think this was much easier in my childhood years.

When I was in kindergarten I wrote a love note to the boy next door.

In third grade I kept dropping my pencil so the boy next to me could be chivalrous and pick it up for me.

And in fourth grade I couldn't wait for the school day to end, just so I could catch up with the high school freshman picking up his sister. I took great pleasure punching him in the arm. At that age, it's flirting!

Like most, my teenage years felt awkward, so I refrained from my prior practices. So now the past 10 years or so, there are times that I do or don't put the effort into it.

A male friend had mentioned that I'm too platonic. Hmm... That is definitely something to thing about. I don't like to be one of those women who touches a man's lapel while laughing obnoxiously, nor do I think that he was referring I should be that way. At the same time, I don't think I'm standoffish. I firmly believe that there is a time and place for everything.

I always thought that being charming and engaging is part of flirting. Is this statement correct? If it isn't, someone please correct me! Make eye contact without staring, smile, turn your body towards him... sheesh, there are way too many books and articles but they all say the same thing.