Carlos? Carlos who??

I do not give my number out often. So imagine my perplexed thought when I received a text message a couple weeks ago from a number I don't recognize... "hi Dominica this is carlos do u remember me, r u still dancing salsa?" I know, a lot of typos.

Before responding back, I beat my brain trying to remember who this guy is. Out of all the guys I know with the name Carlos, none of them have my number. Embarrassed, I inquire who he is because I don't recall.

So he tells me we met 4 years ago. Great, so he kept my number but I obviously deleted his... and I still can't place him. Then he tells me we had kissed, and I start to worry. Was it that bad that I blocked it from my memory? But slowly it comes back to me, and it's crystal clear.

Carlos had been really into me. Unfortunately, due to the fact that his conversational skills didn't pass beyond, "you know you're gorgeous," and, oh yeah, he was living with his girlfriend, I didn't reciprocate. I found out he had a girlfriend after we had kissed, and gave him a hard time about it.

He would tell me he wanted to break up with his girlfriend but afraid of hurting her feelings. But he wants me. Oy.... I told him he couldn't have both.

I had kept his number on my phone for a while, so that I would ignore his calls. Eventually, I erased his contact info.

Then months go by and out of the blue he call to tell me that he broke up with his girlfriend. I don't know if he expected me to be happy, but I was indifferent. It was just an awkward thing to hear, coming from him.

So, now, a few years later he calls again?! Although, to my pleasant surprise, we did talk for a bit and it was okay. At the end of the call, he asked my permission if he could keep in touch and I was fine with that. He's been texting me fairly regularly and he says he wants to see me, but it hasn't happened yet.